Venus opposite Mars

Oppositions work like magnets. You’re drawn to what you don’t have, and this person seems to have plenty of it.

An irresistible magnetic pull with classic romantic and physical attraction.

How a MatchMachine report sums up this aspect

A opposition means one person’s Venus and the other person’s Mars are about 180 degrees apart. On its own it counts as neither harmonious nor challenging. What the labels mean.

What it feels like

Each of you seems to hold a quality the other is missing. The Mars person brings directness and appetite, and the Venus person brings ease and taste, and the difference is the attraction. Many people experience this as classic chemistry: you’re very aware of where the other person is in the room.

Unlike a square, this isn’t really about bad timing. You’re facing each other, so you see each other clearly. The tension comes from the gap between you, and the urge to close it.

Where it shows up

Expect a rhythm of closeness and distance. One steps forward, the other steps back, then you swap. You may find yourselves falling into roles: the pursuer and the pursued, the one who plans and the one who decides if the plan is any good. That’s fun until the roles become fixed and one of you is tired of always being the one who reaches.

What helps

Swap the roles on purpose. If one of you always starts things, let the other do it for a month and see what you learn. Say what you admire in the other person, and also try growing a bit of it in yourself, so it doesn’t feel like they hold something you can’t live without.

Some space is good for this aspect. Separate friends and time apart tend to keep the pull alive rather than weaken it.

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