The direct approach
When you want someone, you tend to say so. Hesitating can feel almost physically uncomfortable, so you’d rather hear a quick no than spend a week wondering. There’s a clean courage in this that many people find thrilling, particularly anyone who’s had enough of decoding messages. You like a bit of resistance too. Someone who’ll push back, race you up the hill and refuse to be impressed right away gets your full attention.
Desire for you tends to be about energy and immediacy. Spontaneity turns you on more than candles do, and so does knowing plainly that you’re wanted.
Hot, quick and then it’s over
Your temper can arrive in a flash. You say the sharp thing, slam the cupboard, and ten minutes later you’re fine and asking what’s for dinner. The person across from you may still have their heart pounding. To you, the fight’s finished; to them, it may have just started.
Staying a few minutes longer than you want to is the practice here. So is walking round the block before you speak, not as a way to dodge the issue but because moving your body burns off the first surge. Exercise tends to help this placement more than talking it through.
Speed never justifies harm. Plenty of people with Mars in Aries get loud and never scare anyone, and if a partner’s anger frightens you, an astrology placement doesn’t explain that away.
When you’re with one
Be straight about what you want and what you don’t. Tell them when you need an hour before you can answer. They rarely take that badly, and they’d much rather hear it than be met with a mysterious silence. Give them something to go after. An outlet for competition, whether sport or a board game with real stakes, can save you a lot of arguing about nothing.