The polite pursuit
You tend to go after people through charm, attention and good company. You’d like the other person to feel it was their idea, and you may be more interested in how the two of you are getting along than in any single thing you want. Attraction for you tends to need some courtesy in it, and a beautiful setting doesn’t hurt. Being treated as an equal is a real turn-on. So is a bit of mental sparring with someone who has a mature, open mind.
You often do your best work alongside someone else. A partner, a team or a cause can bring out energy you’d struggle to find alone, especially when fairness is at stake.
Everyone’s needs but yours
Traditional astrology calls Mars “in detriment” here, because a planet that wants to act alone is in the sign of acting together. Day to day, this means you may struggle to say what you want. You check how everyone else feels first, and by the time you’ve finished, your own wish has gone quiet. Decisions that might upset someone can sit for weeks.
Anger gets translated too. You might not say you’re furious. You might say that it’s “just not very fair”, or present a case on someone else’s behalf, or become extremely polite. Unspoken resentment tends to build up behind all that good manners, then comes out in a cold, precise speech that takes everyone by surprise.
A useful exercise is to state your preference first, before asking anyone else: “I’d like Thai. What about you?” Starts small, gets easier. Conflict doesn’t mean the relationship’s failing. Keeping the peace at your own expense isn’t real peace, and if a partner makes you afraid to disagree, that deserves to be taken seriously in its own right.
Meeting them halfway
Ask what they want, then wait through the pause, and don’t accept “I don’t mind” straight away. Keep arguments civil and they’ll stay in the room. Appreciate how much smoothing-over they do. They can be remarkably good at solving a dispute once they’re allowed to have an opinion in it.