No need to tone it down
Most Scorpios learn to hide how much they feel, because it frightens people. Then they meet someone who asks the next question instead of backing away. Two Scorpios can talk about death, money, sex and that thing with their mother on a second date. There’s a huge relief in that. They also tend to share a dry, slightly wicked sense of humor and an intense privacy, so the world gets very little of what goes on between them.
Their loyalty runs deep. In a crisis, there may be no one you’d rather have with you.
The cold war
Two people who protect their soft spots and remember everything can build quite a stalemate. A hurt isn’t always mentioned. It gets noted. One goes silent to see if the other will notice. The other notices, and goes silent too. Both know exactly where to aim, and in a real fight, they may use that knowledge.
Testing is the other habit: a small trap set to see if you’ll prove loyal. Neither one would admit to it, and both do it. And because all this feels so significant, it can be hard to see when intensity has turned into something unhealthy. Nothing about a shared sign makes threats, surveillance or fear acceptable.
Coming up for air
Have a rule that nothing may be stored for more than a day or two. Say it badly if you have to. Agree that some things are off limits in a fight, and hold to that. Then get out of the cave: separate friends, a stupid comedy, a vacation with no significance at all. Lightness doesn’t threaten what you’ve got. It gives it somewhere to breathe.
Same-sign Suns can be more or less intense than this, depending on the rest of the chart. Compare Moons and read about Moon opposite Mars if you’ve got it, since it can add heat to a bond that’s already plenty warm.