A social scientist and a shepherd
Libra gives you a mind that cares about justice and equality. Cancer adds emotional depth and a feel for what’s going on with others, which can seem almost uncanny. You see how people work, and you want them to be okay. That makes you a natural at negotiation, and at keeping an uneasy family dinner from falling apart.
Both signs are cardinal, meaning they get things started, and that’s what people miss about you. You’re resilient, and you learn from what happens to you on more levels than most. You also keep your unpleasant feelings well hidden, so hardly anyone knows when you’ve had a bad time.
The accommodating partner with a tight grip
Your need for love runs very deep, and you can be one of the most sensitive partners anyone’s had: comforting, funny, encouraging, romantic. You’ll put yourself out for your family, your friends, your friend’s cousin. Over-accommodating is the fault you know about.
The one you may know less about comes along with it. When you’ve given a great deal and hidden what you feel, you can start steering people instead of asking them for what you need. A small guilt trip here, a bit of extra caretaking there. It’s rarely intended. But the person you’re looking after may start to feel managed, and a little short of air, and may wonder why they’re being treated as a child in their own home.
Bringing it into the open
Your vulnerable feelings aren’t anything to be ashamed of, and they cause less trouble when they’re out where people can see them. Try saying a soft thing plainly at the time it comes up: “I felt left out on Saturday.” Then let them respond however they respond. And practice one honest no a week. Someone who knows you can refuse them can also believe you when you say yes, which is the kind of closeness you were after.