Virgo Sun, Libra Moon

Your partner wants a proper argument, and you’ve calmly proposed three fair options and a compromise. It’s very hard to shout at you. They may have started wishing they could.

A private, well-run life

You organize your life with some care, and that includes who gets into it. You’re polite to everyone, but people who bore you tend to quietly drop off the list, which is why you can be a bit of a snob. You look after yourself in your own quiet way, and you may keep a part of your life that few people ever see.

Libra softens Virgo’s sharper edges and adds a sense of beauty and fairness. You’re one of the easier people to be around, with a great respect for each person’s dignity, and you do what you’ve said you’ll do.

When harmony gets in the way

Love may be your weak spot. You’re independent enough to think you don’t much need it, and then a relationship shows you how much you’ve got to give. You’re courteous and gentle, more openly romantic than most Virgos, and less held back by shyness. Being a couple suits you.

What can go wrong is excess tact. If rows are beneath you, you may find you’ve been in a very pleasant arrangement with someone for years, and that neither of you has said anything true in a while. A partner who’s trying to reach you can run into polite walls in every direction. You might also commit early because it all looks right, and only later find that their habits irritate you beyond words.

Tip the scales

Let yourself get caught off guard once in a while. Be angry before you’ve worked out if it’s fair. Tell someone “that hurt” before you’ve seen their side of it. Passion doesn’t have to live under lock and key, and nothing bad tends to happen when it gets out for an hour. Everyone involved needs to be safe for this, of course: an argument that leaves you afraid is a different matter, and no amount of fairness should talk you out of noticing that.

And before you sign anything, stay around long enough to see the socks on the floor.

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