Odd is attractive
You tend to be drawn to people unlike anyone else you know: the one with the peculiar hobby, the unusual politics, the life that doesn’t follow the usual order. A mind that surprises you goes further than a nice face. You like bringing people together, you’ve probably got friends from many different worlds, and you tend to treat a partner as one more person you’re glad to know rather than the sun that everything circles.
You may be happy to set up a relationship in a way that doesn’t look like other people’s, whether that’s separate homes, unusual schedules or some other arrangement that suits the two of you. What matters to you is that it’s been chosen, not assumed.
Cool to the touch
Your feelings tend to pass through your head first. When someone cries, you might offer an interesting perspective. That keeps you calm and rarely jealous, and it can also leave a partner feeling as though they’re talking to a very kind philosopher. You don’t have to fix or analyze the moment. Sometimes “I’m here, and this matters to me” is the entire job.
Clinginess makes you bolt, and you may read any ordinary need as a demand. Before you pull away, it’s worth checking which it is. Someone asking if you’ll be home for dinner isn’t an attack on your freedom. Letting a person know they matter more than your other friends, in words, once in a while, costs little and means a great deal.
An invitation they’d say yes to
Try a festival, a strange exhibition, a talk on a subject neither of you knows, or an activity you’ve never heard of. Share ideas you actually hold, including the ones that aren’t popular. Keep your own friends and interests. They feel loved when someone encourages them to be exactly as odd as they are, and doesn’t ask them to explain it.